Before Getting in a Car, You Need to See This

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You wouldn’t get into the car with this guy, would you? (Daniel Stagner / Flickr)

Say you’re getting a lift to school or a friend’s house. What do you do when you get into the car? Look at your phone? Daydream? At last count, 3183 kids age 19 years and younger died in motor vehicle crashes. Are there any in your school?

Before you get in a car — driving or a passenger, even in Uber or Lyft — you can look out for yourself by paying attention.

You have limited options once you are a passenger. You’re in a better position to advocate your own safety before getting in!

Here’s what you should know to make smart choices. Ask yourself…

  • Is this vehicle safe? Are the tires bald? Is it smoking …and not in a good way? 😯
  • Is the driver safe? Are they drowsy? Have they been drinking? Drunk? Reputable? Unknown?


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  • Does someone know where you’re going and who you’re with? A parent? A responsible friend or adult?

You don’t have to go this far…

But maybe this is not the ride you’re looking for. If you have a bad feeling about this car, and as a passenger, you can help avoid a crash by paying attention as a driver or to the driver, and even to other drivers.

Every single day, distracted drivers kill over 9 people and hurt 391,000 people

YES, eating a donut at the wheel counts as distracted driving. You didn’t know that?

YES, eating a donut at the wheel counts as distracted driving. You didn’t know that?

And that’s just in the U.S.

Distracted driving is driving while doing any other activity that takes your attention off of driving.

There are three main types of distractions:
– Visual: the driver’s eyes are taken off the road.
– Manual: the driver’s hands are taken off the wheel.
– Cognitive: the driver’s mind is taken off of driving.

If you’ve ever driven in a car, you can guess how common distracted driving is. Eating, looking at a map and talking on the phone are all distractions that can keep a driver from focusing on the road.

It can be really tempting to do other things while driving a car. And it’s a fact that most people aren’t as good at multitasking as they think they are!

Just one phone call can change everything.


Texting while driving increases the chances of a crash by 23 times

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Drivers THINK you’re paying enough attention to the road, but they’re not. (Giphy)

On average, it takes 5 seconds to read a text. Sounds quick, right?

But if your driver is going 55 mph while checking their phone, you’ve traveled a whole football field (!) without the driver looking at the road.

Is a text message worth your life?

Texting while driving is another form of distracted driving but it’s especially dangerous because it combines all 3 types of distractions. Here’s why:

– Looking at the phone takes eyes off the road.
– Sending a message takes hands off the wheel.
– Thinking about what to text or about the text takes the mind off driving.

But still … 31% of U.S. drivers ages 18-64 admitted to reading or sending texts or emails while driving. (And 69% said they have talked on their cell phone while driving.)

As the passenger, offer to send a text for the driver as the designated texter. Just don’t be like these people from 2011…

Every 2 minutes, a drunk driving crash hurts someone

Distractions aren’t the only problem. Every day in America, another 28 people die because of these crashes. As soon as you get in a car with an intoxicated driver, you are putting yourself at risk.

When a driver is under the influence of alcohol, it can slow their reaction speed.

For drivers over 21, .08% blood alcohol concentration is the legal limit to drive (in all states). That’s not much.

Even though alcohol and driving can be a deadly combination, it still happens … a lot. In 2017, the percentage of people admitting to driving under the influence of alcohol was 9.2% nationally. That’s good news! Lowest since NHTSA started polling. And there are ways to be even more sure you can protect yourself and others.

But there are ways to prevent these crashes and protect yourself and others.

We know this can be difficult and awkward, and a big responsibility, but if you suspect your driver is under the influence, avoid getting in the car if you can. For example, suggest that it would be better to catch the bus or the subway. Or try texting another family member who could try to help. Or call another person, like a parent or another relative, for a ride home.

Distractions and impairments aren’t the only problems

So you’re ready to help your driver focus on the road … and you’ve decided to refuse to get into a car with a driver who’s been drinking or using drugs. Awesome! Here are 3 other issues you should know about so you can be an informed (and safe!) passenger:

1. Speeding.

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WHOA! Slow down! (atzu / Flickr)

Car crashes are way, WAY more serious when the driver is speeding. Fact: 30% of deaths that happen in crashes are because of speeding.

What can you do about it? Look for speed limit signs, and peek at the dashboard to see how fast your driver is going. If he or she is speeding, point it out. (Try using humor!)

2. Failing to yield.

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Sorry, dude, but drivers have to yield when others have the right of way! (Giphy)

Sometimes someone other than the driver has the right of way — like when a walker or bicyclist is in a crosswalk. But drivers don’t always yield (let the person with the right of way go first) even though they should! And get this — crashes happen most often when cars are turning, not when they’re going straight.

So if the car you’re in is turning, and there’s a walker crossing the street at the corner, and your driver doesn’t yield … this is when too many crashes happen.

What can you do about it? When your driver is getting ready to turn, you can help him or her be on the lookout for walkers who have the right away. If your driver is looking in the rearview mirror and starting to turn, for example, you can warn them before something awful happens.

3. Breaking the rules of the road.

When you learn to drive, you learn things like what all the traffic signs and signals mean, how to signal what you’re doing to other drivers (lights! horns!). But … drivers sometimes ignore these things. Like, they don’t use their turn signal. Or they ignore a sign that tells them they can’t turn here. And as you can imagine, crashes too often happen when drivers do these kinds of things.

What can you do about it? Be aware and be ready to ask your driver questions like, “Hey, don’t we turn at the next corner? Why aren’t you using your signal?” or “Um, doesn’t that sign mean ‘no left turn’?” That should nudge him or her to follow the rules.

Wearing a seat belt is the most effective way to protect yourself

…even when you ‘don’t have to’ in a taxi, Uber, or Lyft.


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And it’s worth your life to reconsider taking a ride that doesn’t have seatbelts available. Sacrificing your body should not be an option.

Even if you’re only going a few blocks, seat belts are always a good idea. (Hey, they’re the law in 49 states, too.)

Of the teens (aged 13-20 years) that died in car crashes in 2012, about 55% of them were not wearing a seatbelt at the time of the crash.

And be aware of your “DOOR ZONE”.

Advocating for driving safety doesn’t end when the car stops moving. If you’re parallel parked, others are speeding past. The door zone is especially dangerous for you stepping out and for bikers in the bike lane. A bicyclist traveling at 15 mph and smacking into an unanticipated door is life-threatening.

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OUCH. (Giphy)

When exiting a car, be sure to look over your shoulder. And educate others to do the same. In most cities, if you “door” a bicycle riding past your car, it is the driver’s fault.

One way to practice safe behavior is the “Dutch Reach.” Use your hand furthest from the door to grab the door latch. (The hand by the seat belt release, NOT the hand nearer the door.) It naturally turns your body to see what’s coming over your shoulder.



What to do when you’re nervous or find yourself in a bad situation?

When you’re a passenger, it’s totally OK to remind your driver to focus on the road. It could save your life! But drivers can be defensive. To avoid a tense situation, start by being non-confrontational.


“Oh wow… Sorry, but I’m getting motion sickness or I ate something bad. I’m feeling really nauseous. Can you slow down?” If the driver believes you to be sick, they’ll be more likely to listen. Especially if they’re worried about their leather.


Or mention that you’ll be driving soon and ask questions about driving, like “How soon should you put on your blinker on…?”


“Can I drive?” People who suffer from motion sickness do better when they’re in control of the vehicle. Got a driver’s license? Use this as an excuse. (Emphasize the leather.)


“I’m gonna hurl!” If you’re in danger, get sick and get out when they pull over.


You’re scaring me, and I want to get out now.” If sick fails, try voicing your fear and powerlessness. Your honesty may shock them into a kinder response.


Worst case scenario? Dial 911. Say “I’m in a vehicle with an impaired driver,” and don’t hang up! If things are bad, use your phone.

And always wear your seatbelt! Be in the habit so you don’t have to reach for your buckle in a hazardous situation.

And when you drive, don’t put your passengers in a bad situation.

Don’t forget!

Now you know more about what could be going on around you when you take a ride in a car. So make sure to keep these things in mind:

1. Cars are big heavy steel boxes. People are soft and easily hurt. You can’t change that! You can only change what choices you make.

2. Passengers have a responsibility to be safe, too, just like drivers.

3. You might get your driver’s license at some point, or you might decide not to. But we’re all passengers. So we all need to know how to be a smart passenger!